Victim Psychology

If someone is attacked, raped, or otherwise victimized, they will often afterwards say that it was their fault.
This is a defense mechanism to regain control in their lives.
If the attack was their fault, then they can stop themselves from being attacked in the future.
Telling a victim the attack wasnt their fault, while a very good thing to do, also undermines their new sense of control over their previously traumatic life and experience