Unspoken (not body) Language

So think of a time when someone offered to do something for you.
Did they really want to do it? or did they feel obligated to offer?
How can you find out?

Proper social etiquette likely dictates you should  politely decline while giving them the possibility of helping you anyway.

"Oh, it's alright, I don't want to inconvenience you." or something like that.

The reason you do this is to give them complete control over whether or not they help you.
When they offer to do something, they are putting themselves on the line, they are putting their short term fate in your hands. By declining politely, like in the example, you let them off the hook.

They will reply something like "alright" or "are you sure?"
or
"no its no trouble really" or "come on, its fine"

The first two are him retracting his offer. Yes, even the are you sure one.
The second two are him overriding you presumed hesitation presumably because he genuinely wants to assist you.

Rule of thumb being;

POLITELY decline offers of assistance. If they INSIST, then you are good to, thank them for their offer and allow them to help you. If they do ANYTHING besides insist, even ask if you're sure, etc, you move on and deal with it alone. That is, assuming you don't want to inconvenience them... or if you're not desperate.

America's spirit animal is Pedobear

I was thinking earlier today about what is considered beautiful in america.

Everything is done to make you look younger, right?
Shaved hair everywhere except the head.
obviously skincare and makeup is meant to make you look  younger.

In france they dont shave, and we make fun.
But maybe they are just more okay with older women.

America is obsessed with youth, for better or worse.
the younger you look (while still being technically legal) the more attractive you are.

therefore, america is a pedophile.

maybe.

Its my birthday. the big 20

So.
Now that I am officially not a teenager anymore, I have to be more responsible.

That doesn't necessarily mean more mature, just more responsible.

Responsibility, to me, means being clean and organized in all areas of life.
Physical body and living space.
Scheduling both yourself and your life.

Keeping up with your lifestyle is immensely important.
No giving up because its too hard or because you are lazy.
Not anymore.
You have no excuse anymore.
You have to do it.

So.
I am currently working on becoming a responsible adult.
I get up early every day and take a shower and shave.
I do all the chores I am required to do and finish before I would have gotten up normally.
Then I practice guitar or study in whatever I want until I go to work.
After work I usually relax or play guitar until bedtime.
Then I ACTUALLY GO TO BED.
Finally.
Sleep for 6-8 hours every night.
Repeat.

I will become a better person every day for the rest of my life.
To me, that is responsibility.